One of the greatest tragedies, in my opinion, is what happens to men from early on in the face of vulnerability. They get pushed around, told to reject it, to be strong. They are the little boy on the subway on the verge of tears while the father says: you aren't going to cry, are you? And the mother and grandmother look on.
It's the animal kingdom, one might say, and men attract the best mates by being fearless, dominant, 'strong'.
Does it matter that we're cerebral animals? That dominating in the world today is not about raw physical strength and animal posturing? That there are women (small minority, I'm sure) who would like to be with a man who accepts and knows and owns all of himself? That there are women who see THAT as strength? That there are women who know there is no chance of happy ever after otherwise?
From Osho:
The woman starts demanding that the man should be perfect, just because he loves her... Either he has to become superhuman or he has to become phony, false, a cheat... And when you love a person, don't start demanding; otherwise, from the very beginning you are closing the doors. Don't expect anything. If something comes your way, feel grateful.
Yet again, Better of Ted summarizes it smartly (so few words!):
It's been a difficult time. So, what do we do?
We're men. We ignore your vulnerable moment.
It's the animal kingdom, one might say, and men attract the best mates by being fearless, dominant, 'strong'.
Does it matter that we're cerebral animals? That dominating in the world today is not about raw physical strength and animal posturing? That there are women (small minority, I'm sure) who would like to be with a man who accepts and knows and owns all of himself? That there are women who see THAT as strength? That there are women who know there is no chance of happy ever after otherwise?
From Osho:
The woman starts demanding that the man should be perfect, just because he loves her... Either he has to become superhuman or he has to become phony, false, a cheat... And when you love a person, don't start demanding; otherwise, from the very beginning you are closing the doors. Don't expect anything. If something comes your way, feel grateful.
Yet again, Better of Ted summarizes it smartly (so few words!):
It's been a difficult time. So, what do we do?
We're men. We ignore your vulnerable moment.
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